Sometimes my life is strange. Well, lets just say that most of the time my life is strange. 90% of the time I’m going against conventional wisdom and things that “normal” people do.
I don’t eat what “they” say I should.
I don’t drink what “they” say I should.
I don’t take medicine the way “they” say I should.
I don’t buy products that “they” say I should.
So how do I deal with this when my kids are in “normal” situations? School? Camp? Church? Haven’t figured that out yet.
This week, Boy Child (going in to 4th grade) is away at camp for the first time. It’s the first time he’s been away from us for an extended amount of time and not with other family members. He has asthma, but we haven’t used his inhaler in about a year, he has seasonal allergies, but those have been under control as well, so I sent him off to camp thinking things were going to be all fine and dandy. 9:30 last night the nurse calls. Boy Child is there saying his asthma is acting up. I talk to him over speaker phone but he doesn’t have “that sound” in his voice that he normally gets, and honestly I think he’s just over tired and won’t let his brain shut off to go to sleep.
But the doubt kicks in.
Am I doing the right thing? Should I have sent in medicines even though we don’t normally use them? Should I have sent in salve and oils? How would I explain that to the nurse? Excuse me, I’m strange and don’t do what the doctors say? Here, give him mint and goo?? How in the world do you write that on a medical form?? Should I send his inhaler to school with him? If so, I have to go back to the doctor and get a new form for this school year and they will charge $$$$$ for all these tests that I know he will pass with flying colors because we really, honestly can control his asthma without the medicine and without the expensive doctor, but how do you explain that to the school??
This morning I looked at his inhaler. It expired in Sept. of 2012 and we had only squirted it 14 times, half of that was to get the thing going. So in the two years since we got the thing, he’s only used it a handful of times. And if I take this inhaler out there, I have to explain to the nurse why I’m giving her a medication that expired almost a year ago… super. In the end, I took it out there anyway, along with some benadryl and a mixture of salve and wintergreen. Thankfully she was understanding of our situation and agreed to give him the chest rub at night before bed. The other things, I explained, were only in case of emergency.
So that went ok. But schools have to be politically correct and homemade chest rubs are not. Not sure what to do about that situation.
Anyone else out there facing this type of situation? How do you cope being politically incorrect, constantly crossing red tape when it comes to medical things? Dealing with nurses and doctors that don’t understand and look down at you like you are the most horrible mother on the face of the planet for not giving your child with asthma an inhaler, or a flu shot, or for not showing up at the doctors office every 3 months when I KNOW it is NOT necessary?
How do you cope with the mommy guilt?